Anti-cyberbullying advice for children and their parents.

As parents one of our most basic instincts is to protect our children and bullying has always been a major concern. In the 21st Century we also have to be aware of cyber-bullying and, as our children are often more technologically savvy than we are and ICT plays an increasingly major role in our lives, it is a growing concern for all parents.
This week is Anti-Bullying Week 2012.
Working as an ICT coordinator in a large school in Manchester for over 12 years, I have had a great deal of experience advising children, parents and teachers on cyber-safety.
Cyber-bullying is defined as the use of communication technology to bully; it can include the use of mobile phones, computers/email, gaming, social media sites such as Facebook, Twitter etc.
Cyber-bullying is just as bad, if not worse than traditional “face-to-face” bullying. For the victims of cyber-bullying, home is no longer a safe place as the bullying is done anytime, anyplace. Cyber-bullies can easily draw in large numbers of other people who can, often unwittingly, perpetuate the bullying tactics, for example “liking” negative posts on Facebook or retweeting negative or malicious tweets. The reach of an online bully is far greater than that of the traditional playground bully. The identity of the cyber-bully is often hidden, making the victim feel helpless and afraid.
A great deal of media attention has been focussed on the use of social media sites being used as a forum for “trolling” which is posting negative posts and/or comments about individuals and there have been some high profile successful prosecutions of people found guilty of this behaviour. This has raised awareness of cyber-bullying.
As adults, we are aware that the type of people who behave in this way are most often dysfunctional, cowardly individuals who would not dream of actually making these comments to their victim’s face. Often these people have issues themselves and may even need help, after all people who are happy and well-balanced don’t behave in this way!
Children are not aware of this and will commonly feel overwhelmed and helpless if they find themselves the victim of cyber-bullying.
So what, as parents or teachers, can we do to help children cope with this 21st century version of bullying?

First of all children need to be aware of what cyber-bullying actually is and what to do if it happens to them. It is impossible to constantly supervise children online so make sure they are aware of the many different forms of cyber-bullying and follow the steps below if they do experience it.
- Tell someone who can help.
- Do not respond.
- Keep a record of texts, emails, posts etc – cyber-bullying always leaves a trail! The police can & will get involved if it does not stop.
- Block offending accounts/numbers/pages/gamers
- Report to social media site if appropriate.
Make sure your child is aware that online, just as in real life, it is important to distinguish between arguments, difference of opinion and one off remarks and serious bullying. Bullying is a repetitive pattern of negative behaviour from one person or group towards another.
There are many fantastic websites around and it is a good idea to look at these with children to raise their awareness. Most schools mark anti-bullying week in some ways and cyber-bullying is often a focus so look out for letters coming home with information about this.
Look out for my next blog on bullying!
Links to useful websites
Childline - a great section on cyber-bullying, in addition to other resources on child protection and a helpline
Kidsmart -child-friendly guide to staying safe online
Cybermentors - child-friendly site offering information on cyber-bullying with celebrity endorsements and online help
Digizen - a website aimed at older Primary and Secondary children exploring the effects of online bullying.
An interesting article about signs of cyber-bullying in The Daily Telegraph

How to protect children from online bullies
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